Most of us are like that. This is comment made by authors wife to author in a conflict moment.
She said, "John Gray, you're a fair -weather friend! As long as I'm sweet, loving Bonnie you are here for me, but as soon as I'm not, you walk right out that door."
At that moment I started to realize the real meaning of unconditional love. I had always thought of myself as a loving person. But she was right. I had been a fair -weather friend. As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself.
That day, for the fast time, I didn't leave her. 1 stayed, and it felt great. I succeeded in giving to her when she really needed me. This felt like real love. Caring for another person. Trusting in our love. Being there at her hour of need. I marveled at how easy it was for me to support her when I was shown the way. How had I missed this? She just needed me to go over and hold her. Another woman would have instinctively known what Bonnie needed. But as a man, I didn't know that touching, holding, and listening were so important to her. By recognizing these differences I began to learn a new way of relating to my wife. I would have never believed we could resolve conflict so easily.
TIME TO CHANGE I GUESS. Think of this. Hope this avoids some embarrassing moments of your life. And this does not only apply with your spouses, this applies to your loved ones and friends too…
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